I wrote recently that our intentions before making a decision are more important than the decision itself.
Metaphorically, our intentions and ultimate decisions are a house of many rooms, just as our sub-conscious minds have many compartments and passageways. It is important that at least one of these places is ours alone, a room where our thoughts and feelings are free to mingle, a refuge from our conscious and public world.
From Michel Montaigne, the French writer who died in 1592:
"We should set aside a room, just for ourselves, at the back of the
shop, keeping it entirely free and establishing there our true liberty,
our principal solitude and asylum. Within it our normal conversation
should be of ourselves, with ourselves, so privy that no commerce or
communication with the outside world should find a place there; there
we should talk and laugh as though we had no wife or children, no
possessions, no followers, no menservants, so that when the occasion
arises that we must lose them it should not be a new experience to do
without them. We have a soul able to turn in on herself; she can keep
herself company; she has the wherewithal to attack, to defend, to
receive and to give." -- Montaigne, On Solitude